Cocktails & Vibes

Cocktails and Vibes: The Best Spots in Tulsa for a Perfect Night Out

Look, we’ve all been there—after a long week, there’s nothing quite like kicking back with a well-crafted cocktail. But here’s the catch: it’s not just about the drink. Sure, a perfectly balanced Old Fashioned or a mind-blowing Margarita is a must, but the vibe is everything. You want a place where the atmosphere is just as good as the cocktail in your hand. A spot where you can sip, relax, and maybe even take a pic for the ’gram (because, you know, it didn’t really happen unless it’s on social).

Lucky for us, Tulsa is absolutely killing the game when it comes to cocktail bars that not only serve up some of the best drinks in town but also have vibes so good you’ll want to stay all night. Whether you're meeting up with friends, going on a date, or just looking to unwind solo, these are the top spots in Tulsa where cocktails and ambiance go hand-in-hand. Let’s get into it.

Valkyrie: For the Cocktail Connoisseur

Over in the Tulsa Arts District, you’ll find Valkyrie—a place that’s all about the cocktails. These folks take their mixology seriously, but don’t worry, there’s no pretentiousness here. It’s the kind of spot where you can tell the bartender what flavors you like and they’ll whip up something custom, just for you.

Their menu is always changing based on what’s fresh and in season, but if you’re not sure where to start, go for the Bee’s Knees or the Corpse Reviver #2 (a personal favorite of Mark’s). The drinks are strong, balanced, and absolutely delicious.

Vibe Check: Sleek, industrial, and laid-back—perfect for when you’re out with friends or just want to sip something strong in a moody atmosphere.

The Bull in the Alley: Hidden Speakeasy Vibes

If you want to impress someone (or just treat yourself), head to The Bull in the Alley. This place isn’t just a bar—it’s an experience. Located in an actual alley (you’ll feel like you’ve stepped into a secret speakeasy), the whole vibe screams exclusivity.

Their cocktail menu is filled with classic options, but the Martini is where it’s at. It’s smooth, perfectly chilled, and will make you feel like you’re channeling your inner James Bond.

Vibe Check: Dark, mysterious, and ultra-luxe. Perfect for date night or when you want to feel a little fancy.

Saturn Room: Tiki Fun Without the Beach

If you’re craving something a little more fun and tropical, Saturn Room is your spot. This tiki-themed bar is all about the island vibes—think bamboo décor, colorful lights, and drinks served in those adorable tiki mugs. You’ll feel like you’ve been transported to a tropical island, minus the plane ticket.

Order the Mai Tai or the Painkiller, and get ready for some seriously strong rum drinks. Bonus: They often serve your cocktails with little umbrellas, which is exactly the vibe we all need sometimes.

Vibe Check: Fun, tropical, and super laid-back. Great for groups or anyone looking to pretend they’re on vacation for the night.

Amelia’s: Rooftop Drinks with a View

Sometimes you just want to sip a cocktail while watching the sunset, and for those moments, Amelia’s has you covered. Their rooftop bar is one of the best places in Tulsa to grab a drink, take in the view, and relax with friends.

When it comes to cocktails, Amelia’s keeps it classy. Their Paloma is top-tier, and the Negroni is about as perfect as it gets. But honestly, with that view, everything just tastes better up here.

Vibe Check: Rooftop magic with a side of luxury. Perfect for a chill evening with a view.

MixCo: Chill Vibes with Serious Drinks

Located right across from the BOK Center, MixCo is the go-to spot for a casual drink before or after a show. But don’t let the chill vibes fool you—the cocktails here are no joke. They’re creative, balanced, and have just the right amount of flair.

Their New Fashioned is a fun twist on the classic Old Fashioned, and if you’re into something a little more playful, the Smoked Pineapple Margarita is a must. It’s the kind of drink that instantly makes you want to kick back and savor the moment.

Vibe Check: Casual, cozy, and perfect for pre- or post-event drinks. Ideal for when you’re not in the mood for anything too fancy but still want a killer cocktail.

Vintage Wine Bar: Classy Meets Cozy

If you’re more of a wine person but occasionally dabble in cocktails, Vintage Wine Bar is the perfect hybrid. Sure, their wine selection is on point, but their cocktail game is just as strong. Located in the Kendall-Whittier District, this spot offers a cozy, intimate vibe that feels like a hidden gem.

Try their French 75 or the Whiskey Sour for a cocktail experience that feels both elegant and approachable.

Vibe Check: Cozy, intimate, and unpretentious. Perfect for a low-key night out or a cozy date.

Boston Title & Abstract: Throwback Vibes and Timeless Cocktails

Boston Title & Abstract is one of those places where the vibe is as important as the drink in your hand. Located in Downtown Tulsa, this bar brings a throwback, vintage feel with its plush seating and moody lighting. It’s the perfect spot to sip on a classic cocktail and feel like you’ve stepped back in time.

Their Manhattan is a must, but if you’re feeling adventurous, go for the Paper Plane. It’s citrusy, balanced, and just the right amount of sweet.

Vibe Check: Old-school cool with a modern twist. Perfect for a classy night out.

Lounge at the Mayo: Historic Charm with a Cocktail Twist

For a little taste of Tulsa history with your drink, head to the Lounge at the Mayo. This spot is inside the historic Mayo Hotel, and the charm is undeniable. The cocktails are classic but well-executed, and the bartenders are more than happy to chat with you about the hotel’s storied past while they craft your drink.

Order the Sazerac or the French Martini, and then soak in the old-school glamour of the Mayo’s iconic lobby.

Vibe Check: Historic elegance with modern touches. Perfect for when you want a classy cocktail in a beautiful setting.

The Bottom Line: Tulsa’s Cocktail Scene Is All About Options

Whether you're in the mood for a tiki cocktail, a hidden speakeasy vibe, or rooftop drinks with a view, Tulsa’s cocktail scene has you covered. The best part? Each of these spots brings its own unique atmosphere, so no matter what kind of night you're after, there’s a perfect spot for you.

ps. #SpecialMention
Hodges Bend: Always in our hearts ❤️

Although this venue is no longer with us due to a fire tragedy, it didn’t seem right to do a “best of” and not include them. We hope and believe they will be back with us (soon) and in the meantime let’s reflect on what we loved about Hodges…

If there were ever a place that just gets it, it’s Hodges Bend. Coffee, cocktails, wine—they do it all. The vibe here is effortlessly cool, with a mix of modern chic and vintage warmth. You can start your day here with a latte (because you’re fancy like that), but the real magic happens once the sun goes down.

Hodges Bend is known for its craft cocktails, and their Old Fashioned is basically a work of art. They also make a killer Aviation if you’re feeling adventurous. The bartenders here are total pros, so don’t be shy about asking for something off-menu.

Vibe Check: Dimly lit, intimate, and perfect for when you want to feel like you’re in on one of Tulsa’s best-kept secrets.

Tulsa Botanic Garden [September 2024]

Tulsa Botanic Garden: Where Nature Blooms and Dogs Roam Free (on Select Days, of Course)

This weekend, we did something that made both our hearts and our dog’s tail wag. That’s right—we took advantage of dog day at the Tulsa Botanic Garden, a.k.a., one of the prettiest places to walk, breathe, and let your four-legged friend get a sniff of the good life. If you’ve ever wanted to enjoy a serene day out among some of Oklahoma’s most beautiful blooms while your dog gets to live their best life, the Tulsa Botanic Garden is the place to be.

Nestled just a short drive from downtown, this 170-acre slice of heaven is where humans and nature connect—whether you’re chasing tranquility, exploring the seasonal flower displays, or (like today) making sure your pup gets in on the action. Here’s everything you need to know about why this spot is one of Tulsa’s best-kept secrets, and why you should get it on your calendar (with or without your furry friend).

Dog Day at the Garden: A Tail-Wagging Time

Let’s start with the real MVP of today’s visit: dog day. If you’ve got a canine companion, you know how it feels to find a place that welcomes your dog and offers you a great time too. Usually, we’re relegated to the nearest dog park or trail (no complaints, but a little variety would be nice), but the Tulsa Botanic Garden changes the game by offering specific dog days throughout the year. This means your pup can roam the gorgeous grounds, make new furry friends, and soak up some nature.

Our fur-baby has special needs as a senior pup, she’s 16-years young, is blind & deaf, however she loves special outings on the weekend—sniffing every plant, feeling the breeze on her fur and maybe getting a little too excited about some of the sculptures scattered throughout the garden. The trails are spacious enough that even on busy days, you’re not constantly dodging other dogs, and there’s plenty of room for your sweet fur-baby to enjoy themselves without pulling you through a hedge.

Pro Tip: While dogs are welcome on dog days, they do require leashes, so bring one that gives your pup enough freedom to explore but still keeps them close enough to avoid flower bed casualties & please remember to be kind and pick up after your pet!

It’s All in the Details: Gardens That Wow

Keeping things real, we weren’t quite sure what to expect from the Tulsa Botanic Garden, but we were excited to check it out and if we loved it we knew we’d scoop up a membership. We figured it’d be pretty, but the variety and attention to detail here take it to the next level. The themed gardens are so thoughtfully designed that you could visit multiple times a year and still feel like you’re discovering something new.

The Children’s Discovery Garden is a hit even if you don’t have kids in tow. It’s interactive and whimsical, with giant flowers that spray mist in the summer and water features that make you feel like you’ve stepped into a fairy tale.

The Lakeview Terrace offers killer views of the lake and it’s super expansive…so completely relaxing. We’re excited to come back and visit during the spring blooms to see the flowers showing off in all their glory. We’re told the park is brimming over with vibrant tulips, perennials, and wildflowers that make you stop in your tracks and appreciate how good Mother Nature really is.

But let’s not forget the star attraction: the Tandy Floral Terraces. These multi-tiered terraces are like something out of a dream. Seasonal flowers line the stone pathways, and the large water feature in the center is the perfect spot to stop and snap a few pics (for both your Instagram and your dog’s IG, obviously).

The Seasonal Perks: Always Something New

What’s great about the Tulsa Botanic Garden is that it’s always changing with the seasons. So, even if you’ve been before, it’s worth returning to see what’s new. As mentioned above, in the spring, the garden goes all out for its Tulsa Botanic BLOOMS, where you’ll find over 120,000 bulbs putting on a colorful show. And if you’re more of an autumn lover, the Tulsa Botanic BOO-tanical event is the place to be, complete with festive fall displays, pumpkin decorations, and all the spooky vibes you didn’t know you needed. This is precisely what they were setting up when we arrived, so we had some fun snapping pics amongst the pumpkins, and even did a little time lapse through the pumpkin hay maze, LOL!
[You can catch a sneak peek of the fall set up, the fall blooms as well as a time lapse of the maze HERE on our IG]

During the summer, the Tulsa Botanic Garden opens up their Thursday Late nights, so you can wander the gardens in the cool evening air while catching a sunset over the lake (with or without a glass of wine from their events).

Can’t Forget the Amenities: The Details Matter

If you’re worried about comfort, (aside from there being NO shade throughout most of the park), the rest of the well thought out custom comforts will put your mind at ease. The Tulsa Botanic Garden has done a great job at making sure guests have everything they need for a relaxing visit. The bathrooms are clean (yes, I checked), the paths are well-maintained, and the signage is clear so you can easily find your way around.

The staff here is friendly & super knowledgeable about the blooms. Whether you’ve got questions about a specific plant (for when you’re ready to flex that gardening hobby) or just need advice on which path is best for a quiet stroll, they’ve got you covered. Where we were disappointed in all honesty was that 5 minutes after buying our tickets we asked if we could apply the cost of our tickets today towards a season pass if we enjoy the park and we were told we could not. The only accommodation they offer is $10 off.
ProTip: If you think you’ll come back even just once a season, it’s more affordable to get a family pass, so just ask for one PRIOR to purchasing your tickets.

And yes, the gift shop is a total delight. Think plant-inspired gifts, gardening books, and one-of-a-kind souvenirs that help support the garden. Trust me, you’ll want to grab something on your way out. We found the cutest little fairy crowns for the grand toddlers as well as cute tshirts and magnets.

The Perfect Place for Tulsa’s Best Doggone Day

Tulsa has a lot of great places to hang out with your dog (shout out to the Midland Valley and riverfront trails, which are dog-friendly every day), but the Tulsa Botanic Garden? It’s a special treat. You get the beauty and peace of nature, your dog gets to be part of the adventure, and you both leave feeling refreshed.

Keep an eye on their schedule for upcoming dog days, because trust me, your pup will thank you. And even if it’s not a dog day, the Tulsa Botanic Garden is worth the trip. Whether you’re exploring solo, with friends, or with your four-legged family, it’s the perfect spot to get outside, unwind, and take in some of Tulsa’s natural beauty.

The Bottom Line: Tulsa Botanic Garden is for Everyone (Especially Dog Lovers)

If you haven’t been to the Tulsa Botanic Garden yet, it’s time to plan a visit. Whether you’re a die-hard nature enthusiast, a casual stroller, or someone who just needs a beautiful backdrop for your next dog walk, this place has something for everyone. Trust me, once you experience the charm of this place, you’ll find yourself coming back season after season (and on every dog day you can get to).

2024 -The Best 7 Pumpkin Patches In Tulsa

The Best Pumpkin Patches to Visit in Tulsa, OK and Beyond
As the leaves start to turn and the air gets that crisp autumn bite, it can only mean one thing—pumpkin season is upon us! Whether you’re a pumpkin spice fanatic, a die-hard Halloween lover, or simply someone looking for a perfect photo op, there’s no better way to embrace the fall than by visiting a pumpkin patch. So grab your flannel shirts, put on those cute boots, and let’s dive into the best pumpkin patches in Tulsa and beyond!

1. Pumpkin Town Farms: The Pumpkin Paradise
Located in the heart of Tulsa, Pumpkin Town Farms is the ultimate destination for fall fun. With activities for the whole family, including hayrides and a pumpkin cannon (yes, you read that right), there’s no shortage of excitement here.

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And BONUS…Parking is FREE!

• 2024 Season: OPEN SEPTEMBER 21ST – NOVEMBER 3RD, 2024

• Hours: Tuesday-Sunday from 10:00 AM to 8:00 PM. (Closed Mondays)

Prepare to snap all the Instagram-worthy pics while enjoying everything from pumpkin picking to a lively petting zoo​.

2. Livesay Orchards: Pick Your Own Adventure

Just a short drive to Porter, Livesay Orchards is a family favorite known for its pick-your-own pumpkins. Imagine the joy of plucking a pumpkin straight from the vine—it's a fall experience that can't be beaten!

The "Official Spokes-Pumpkin" for Bullying Prevention!

Spookley the Square Pumpkin Story in our Haybale Maze - "Official Spokes-Pumpkin" for Bullying Prevention!

• 2024 Season: WEEKENDS FROM LATE SEPT – OCT 27, 2024

• Hours: Saturdays from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM; Sundays from 1:00 PM to 6:00 PM.
  Plus Fall Break Days TBA for 2024 from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM

Only bummer is they have a strict NO PETS POLICY. If you’re okay with leaving your furbaby behind, don’t forget to stop by the farm store for some homemade goodies to take home​
(maybe for the pup you left behind).

3. Pleasant Valley Farms: A Cornucopia of Fun

For a classic pumpkin patch experience, look no further than Pleasant Valley Farms in Sand Springs. This family-friendly destination has all the fall fun you are looking for.

Welcome to the Best Known Farm Around!

Climb aboard on the 1 mile round trip hayride, or for a bundle of fun take a ride on the cow train. Challenge your directional skills, through the 15 acre corn maze.
Over 20 Free activities!!!

• 2024 Season: Opens October 1st.

• Hours: Daily from 9:00 AM to 7:00 PM.

Challenge yourself to navigate the 15-acre corn maze, ride the cow train, or enjoy a relaxing hayride while taking in the crisp autumn air.

4. Dusty’s Adventure Farms: Fun Awaits!

For those looking for a day full of activities, Dusty’s Adventure Farms in Adair is your ticket to fall fun! Enjoy rides, games, and of course, pumpkin picking.

NE Oklahoma’s #1 Fall Destination!!!

Sunflowers | Pumpkins | 40+ acres of Farm Fun | Giant Maze | Hay Rides | NE Oklahoma’s LARGEST Animal Barnyard Experience | Photo Ops | 40’x60’ Bounce Pillows | 35+ activities | Gift Shop | Concessions & MORE!

• 2024 Season: OPENING DAY! SUNDAY OCTOBER 6!!

• Hours: Saturdays from 10:00 AM to 7:00 PM and Sundays from 12:00 PM to 7:00 PM.

With a barrel train ride and a petting zoo, this patch guarantees smiles all around.

5. The Patch: A Fantastic Experience

The Patch in Sand Springs is another great option, offering everything from pumpkin picking to a variety of fun games and activities.

2 Locations To Choose From!

Sand Springs or Glenpool…The larger of the two is in Glenpool and says the cost = unlimited “Fun For Everyone”, the one in Sand Springs says the cost = unlimited “Fun For Kids”. So depending on if you want to watch or play…you have choices!

• 2024 Season: Open daily in October.

• Hours: Monday-Saturday from 10:00 AM to 7:00 PM; Sundays from 12:00 PM to 7:00 PM.

It’s the perfect place to create unforgettable memories with family and friends​.

6. Shepherd's Cross: A Unique Experience

As the fall season approaches, don’t miss Shepherd's Cross in Claremore, known for its variety of activities that will delight young and old alike.

A Faith Based Fall Destination

An Agritourism Experience

• A Peaceful Respite

• Green Spaces

• Shepherd's Shop - Homegrown & Homemade

• Farm Animals

• Museum

• Bible Garden

• Wool Mill

• Precious Memories

• Authentic Sheep & Cattle Ranch

• 2024 Season: September 24th to November 2nd.

• Hours: Tuesday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 6:30 PM.

Wander through their pumpkin patch, navigate a hay bale maze, and say hello to the friendly farm animals. Plus, check out the gift shop for fun fall goodies​.

7. Annabelle’s Fun Farm: A Whimsical Wonderland

Don’t forget to check out Annabelle’s Fun Farm, located a bit further afield but well worth the drive for a day filled with activities.

Fields of farm-fresh fun for the whole family!

Besides a heap of pumpkins to pick from and 30+ aMAZEing acres to get lost in, Annabelle's Fun Farm offers pig races, the giant slide, carousel, treats, and more!

• 2024 Season: September 28th to October 27th.

• Hours: Fridays from 1:00 PM to 6:00 PM; Saturdays and Sundays from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM.

This farm offers fun games, delicious snacks, and plenty of photo opportunities​.

Capture the Moment

No pumpkin patch visit is complete without capturing those picture-perfect moments. So, whether you’re posing with the biggest pumpkin you can find or enjoying a hayride, make sure to snap some photos. Your social media feed will thank you later!

OR you can just go to TARGET!

If you are too overwhelmed by choice and you just want cute pumpkins to decorate your porch and home with…I did see this weekend that the TARGET on Yale in Tulsa, already has theirs out. #YouAreWelcome

Embrace the Pumpkin Season

Pumpkin patches are more than just places to pick pumpkins; they’re destinations for creating memories, enjoying fall festivities, and soaking in the beauty of the season. So this year, don’t just stick to the same old routine—get out there and explore all the wonderful pumpkin patches Tulsa and its surroundings have to offer.

Your adventure awaits, and the perfect pumpkin is just waiting to be picked…the ONE TIME it’s okay to pick at something!

Tulsa’s Best Kept Secret

Why Keystone Ancient Forest is Tulsa’s Best Kept Secret for Hikers

We’ve found our new favorite hiking spot, and it’s practically in our backyard. Today, we ventured out to Keystone Ancient Forest in Sand Springs, and let me tell you, this place is next level amazing. Whether you’re an experienced hiker or just looking for a beautiful way to spend a weekend outdoors, Keystone offers a little something for everyone.

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to hike in a forest that feels ancient (and by ancient, I mean trees that have been standing since before the Roman Empire), this is it. So grab your hiking boots—or heck, borrow one of their hiking sticks, that’s right…they loan out sticks for FREE! —and let me take you through why this hidden gem has completely won me over.

Keystone Ancient Forest: A Hiker’s Paradise Right in Tulsa’s Backyard

So here’s the thing: I’ve done my fair share of hiking, but few places compare to the experience I had at Keystone Ancient Forest. Located just a short drive from Tulsa, this forest isn’t just beautiful—it’s thoughtful. Every detail, from the ADA-accessible trails to the clearly marked paths, has been carefully designed to make sure everyone can enjoy what nature has to offer.

I mean, how often do you find a hiking spot with wheelchairs designed for trails, hiking sticks available to borrow, and even bug spray provided at the trailhead? And here’s the kicker: there are dog-friendly days, which—lucky us—just happened to be today! Our four-legged sweetie had the time of her life trotting alongside us on the trail. Not every place is this inclusive, and for that, Keystone gets major brownie points.

Friendly Staff and All the Comforts You Didn’t Know You Needed

Let’s talk about the volunteers. I wasn’t expecting to meet such friendly and knowledgeable people at a local trail, but the team at Keystone? They’re incredible. From offering tips on which trails to try based on your experience level to chatting about the local wildlife, or offering helpful suggestions for our family member with Dementia, they’re the type of people who genuinely love what they do. And it shows.

Now, let’s address a concern a discerning hiker such as myself is always looking at: the bathrooms. We’ve all been there—trekking through a beautiful forest only to come across a restroom situation that makes you want to turn back. Not here. The facilities at Keystone are new, clean, and dare I say, pleasant? I didn’t even think twice about using them, which is rare for a day in the wild. Trust me, you’ll appreciate it.

Oh, and did I mention the gift shop? It’s stocked with everything from super trendy t-shirts & stickers for your laptop or hydro (or I guess Stanley more appropriately these days) and 100% of the proceeds go directly back to supporting the trails. We couldn’t help but grab a few mementos to remember the day—and knowing our dollars were going to a good cause made it even sweeter.

The Trails: Marked to Perfection

Now, for the main event: the trails. You know how some hiking spots leave you second-guessing whether you’re still on the path or if you’ve accidentally wandered into uncharted territory? Not at Keystone. These trails are so clearly marked that it almost feels like they’re giving you a guided tour of the forest. No GPS necessary, just follow the signs and enjoy the journey.

The different trail options make it perfect for hikers of all levels. Whether you’re a newbie looking for a leisurely stroll or a seasoned pro ready to tackle something more challenging, there’s something for you. We stuck to a moderately challenging route today, and even with the occasional incline, it felt totally manageable.

And with 3 miles of trails, it’s a perfect place for spending a couple of hours immersed in nature without feeling overwhelmed. The changing seasons promise different experiences—so you bet I’ll be back to see what this place looks like when autumn hits.

Dog-Friendly Days? Say No More!

If you’re a dog lover like me, you know how tough it can be to find trails that welcome our furry friends. But at Keystone Ancient Forest, they get it. On select days, the trails are open to dogs, and our pup had the time of her life. There’s just something so special about seeing your dog romp around, tail wagging, that makes a day in the forest even better. While The Gathering Place has select days for dogs, Midland Valley and the riverfront trails allow dogs daily, making them perfect for everyday outings with your furry friends. But when it comes to the beautiful, ancient trees of Keystone and those special dog-inclusive days, it’s well worth checking the schedule and planning a trip!

Why Keystone Ancient Forest is More Than Just a Hike

Sure, Keystone Ancient Forest is a great place for a hike, but it’s more than that—it’s an experience. Whether you’re reconnecting with nature, taking your dog on an adventure, or just spending some quality time with friends and family, this place offers a chance to step away from the noise and breathe in some much-needed fresh air.

It’s the kind of place where you can take your time, stop to appreciate the ancient trees, and just be. And honestly, that’s what I loved the most about it. It’s not about rushing to the end of the trail—it’s about savoring the journey.

Our Takeaway: We’ll Be Back (A Lot)

There are plenty of beautiful hiking spots around Tulsa (shoutout to Turkey Mountain), but something about Keystone Ancient Forest feels extra special. It’s not just the pristine trails or the thoughtful amenities—it’s the way this place makes you feel connected to both nature and the community.

So yeah, we’ll definitely be back. We’re already planning to visit during different seasons to see how the forest changes. And if you haven’t been yet, trust me, you’ll want to add this place to your list.

Find Your Midlife Style Vibe

A Helpful Style Guide - Tulsa Fashion

Let’s face it, finding your personal style can feel a little like playing dress-up as an adult. You try on an outfit, you love it, and then you suddenly wonder if you look like you’re attending a PTA meeting in 1995. (Been there!) But here’s the thing—style isn’t about following trends; it’s about figuring out what makes you feel like you and reflecting that in your wardrobe.

For Millennials and Gen Xers, this process is all about balance. We want to look current but not trendy, comfortable but not sloppy, and put-together without looking like we’re trying too hard. And yes, this can be done while still making room for the occasional throwback concert tee and those jeans that fit just right.

Let’s explore how you can define (or redefine) your personal style in a way that’s fun, easy, and feels natural. Whether you’re building a professional wardrobe, finding your weekend look, or pulling together an effortlessly cool vibe, here’s how to own your style and rock it with confidence—Tulsa style, of course.

The Basics of Defining Your Style: Less is More

One of the biggest myths about style is that it means you need to have a wardrobe stuffed with clothes. The truth is, minimalism is your best friend. Ever heard of the Capsule Wardrobe? The concept is simple: you curate a small, intentional wardrobe of versatile pieces that can be mixed and matched, making it easy to dress with minimal effort.

If you're in Tulsa and ready to take the plunge into a capsule wardrobe, local boutiques like The Scout Guide Tulsa offer everything from elevated basics to stand-out pieces that fit seamlessly into your life. Bonus: shopping local means you're supporting small businesses while building a wardrobe that fits your lifestyle.

Dress for Your Lifestyle (and the Oklahoma Weather)

Oklahoma’s weather is, shall we say, interesting. One day it’s humid and sticky, the next, it’s brisk and windy. So, having a few seasonal staples is a must, especially when you're styling for function and fashion.

Fall/Winter Style: In the cooler months, Tulsa is all about layering. Look for stylish yet practical layers that can keep up with the temperature shifts. Think light sweaters, denim jackets, and neutral scarves from one of the boutiques at Utica Square. Add a good pair of ankle boots from Fleet Feet Tulsa—they'll keep you looking sharp whether you’re strolling around the Gathering Place or grabbing coffee at Foolish Things.

Spring/Summer Style: Tulsa summers can be downright toasty. Your best bet is to invest in lightweight fabrics like linen and cotton. Keep it breezy with flowy dresses or structured shorts from my fav, Anthropologie. Pro tip: Incorporate pieces with fun patterns—florals, geometrics, or even a bold stripe can make a statement without feeling too loud.

Find Inspiration but Stay Authentic

Let’s be real: Instagram is a fantastic place to find style inspiration, but it’s easy to get sucked into trying to replicate someone else’s look. Sure, that influencer may look fabulous in their head-to-toe designer fit, but would it work for your day-to-day? Instead of copying a look, borrow the feeling that speaks to you and infuse it into your wardrobe.

Head to local Tulsa thrift shops like Cheap Thrills Vintage or Goodwill Tulsa to score some retro finds that allow you to channel the essence of a look without feeling like you're trying too hard. These shops are gold mines for unique pieces that tell a story and add an extra layer of personality to your wardrobe.

Color Palettes and Patterns: What Do They Say About You?

Understanding how certain colors and patterns make you feel can be a game-changer. If you’ve never thought about the psychology of color in your wardrobe, start now! For example, wearing shades of blue can give off a sense of calm and trust, while red adds a pop of confidence and energy.

You can take a trip to Tulsa’s Brookside District and pop into Clothes Mentor for a great selection of second-hand gems that allow you to experiment with different color palettes without committing to a pricey investment.

If patterns are your thing, look for items that balance boldness with neutrality. A patterned scarf or blouse can elevate an otherwise simple outfit. Don’t be afraid to mix patterns like stripes and florals—just keep one print more subtle to avoid clashing.

Curating Accessories and the Art of Layering

Accessories are often the icing on the cake when it comes to style, but for Millennials and Gen Xers, they should be intentional and minimalist. You don't want to over-accessorize and feel like you're reliving your high school years—unless that’s the look you’re going for!

Kendra Scott in Woodland Hills Mall is a fantastic local spot for picking up elegant jewelry that complements, rather than overpowers, your outfits. Invest in a few versatile pieces like simple gold hoop earrings or a statement watch that can elevate both casual and dressy looks.

When it comes to layering, think in terms of texture. A lightweight cardigan over a structured shirt paired with a simple necklace can turn a basic look into something polished and effortless.

Confidence is Your Best Accessory

The truth is, the most important part of defining your style is feeling good in what you're wearing. It's not about the latest trends or how much you spent—it's about putting on something that makes you feel confident and comfortable.

There’s no need to rush out and buy a new wardrobe overnight. Instead, build it slowly and deliberately. Shop locally, explore new styles, and, most importantly, have fun with it. The best outfits are the ones that make you feel like your most authentic self.

And let’s not forget: the perfect style is one that evolves with you. As your life changes, so will your style—and that’s a beautiful thing.

Self-Care Spots In Tulsa

Local Happy Places + Simple Routines = a Happier You

Let’s get real for a second… When was the last time you truly focused on YOU? I mean, beyond the occasional coffee run or grabbing that impulse candle at Target (no shame, we all do it). Taking care of ourselves, especially in midlife, means intentionally making time to nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits. And trust me, self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential for becoming the best version of YOU!

So, how can we start putting ourselves first without it feeling guilty about it, or having it feel like just another chore? I’m not gonna lie, I don’t have it all figured out either, but I will say that I’ve discovered some incredible self-care options right here in Tulsa that will leave you feeling refreshed, inspired, and, most importantly, loved!

Pamper Yourself at Poppi’s

Cheers to Couples Massages @ Poppi’s!

This place is a vibe, located in a fun part of town & is cute for a romantic date, or the perfect space to just unwind solo. Worth checking out for sure.
We rate it a 4 / 5 🥂🥂

If your body is screaming for some much-needed R&R (and let’s face it, whose isn’t?), head to Poppi’s Spa for the ultimate relaxation experience. This place is pure bliss from the moment you step in. Whether you opt for a full-body massage, a rejuvenating facial, or just soak in the peaceful atmosphere, you’ll leave feeling like a whole new person. And hey, you deserve it!

Get Moving at Gathering Place

Let’s talk endorphins! Nothing boosts your mood like a little movement, and Tulsa’s Gathering Place is the spot to make it happen. Whether you’re up for a brisk walk, a peaceful yoga session by the lake, or a scenic bike ride, this park has it all. I’m extra excited about heading out to this side of town especially now that the pedestrian bridge (Williams Crossing) & water park at the riverfront are now open! I don’t know about you, but I find that whenever I’m stressed, just being in nature can turn a blah day into something beautiful.
Pro tip: Grab a friend and catch up while you walk—mental health boost included!

Unwind at Woodward Park’s Rose Garden

Need a moment to just breathe? The Woodward Park Rose Garden is one of my favorite spots in Tulsa for a quick mental reset. Surrounded by the most beautiful blooms, you can sit on a bench with your journal, meditate, or just let yourself be. The calming vibe of this garden makes it impossible not to feel at peace. 🌹

Nourish Your Body at Foolish Things Coffee

Self-care also means fueling our bodies with things that make us feel good. Foolish Things Coffee is the perfect cozy corner to grab a latte, settle in with a good book, and enjoy some you time. Their atmosphere is as inviting as their menu, and the coffee? Perfection. Treat yourself to one of their pastries, and you’ll feel that self-care glow in no time!

Expand Your Mind at Magic City Books

Sometimes, self-care means getting lost in the pages of a great book. Magic City Books is a local treasure where you can wander the aisles and find your next favorite read. The shop’s vibe is so warm and inviting, you’ll want to stay a while. Grab a book that inspires growth or helps you unwind—whether it’s a novel or something on wellness—and give yourself permission to disappear into a world of words. 📚

Take a Healing Nature Walk at Turkey Mountain

Nothing clears your mind like a hike through nature. If you’re craving a deeper connection to the earth (or just need to escape the hustle for a bit), Turkey Mountain Urban Wilderness offers trails that range from easy to challenging, so you can choose your adventure. Being in nature is a sure-fire way to reduce stress, and the trails and earthy ambiance are the perfect combo to reset that stress and inhale some fresh air!

No matter if you check out any of the spots or not, keep in mind that prioritizing self-care can be as simple as giving yourself a moment to slow down, breathe, and recharge. Whether it’s a home spa day, a quiet walk around the neighborhood, or curling up with a good book, it’s so important to make the time for yourself—because we’re worth it.
As a newer Oklahoma transplant & now a Tulsa homeowner (thank you Tulsa Remote!) I can confidently say that Tulsa offers endless opportunities to reconnect with yourself, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way!

Stay kind to yourself, friend! ❤️